one man’s wife is another
woman’s jesus
on
Friday night
we
saw a brilliant play
about
a German man
who
constructed his
life
as a version
of
a German woman
openly
and obviously and constantly
cross
dressing in a plain grey outfit
with
queen anne heels and a single
strand
of simple pearls.
He/She
lived this
transformation
with modest
and
understated humility
straight
forwardly and
apparently
unashamed.
and
drew as little attention
as
possible for a man in a dress
moving
about whilst unobtrusively
shouting
out his own
quite
different truth at a whisper’s volume:
“I
AM MY OWN WIFE”
On Saturday we attended the
golden jubilee of a lovely woman,
friend of my family of origin,
celebrating
her fifty years as a nun. There was
a mass with modest pomp and
ceremony: three celebrants
in long robes and scarves and shiny
fabrics moved about on quite a
different stage,
while various honored guests spoke
tributes to a life of dedication and
service:
well deserved accolades for a truly
fine person.
but looking at the decked out priests
I couldn’t help but be reminded of the
German
man from the night before.
He
had survived and lived a vexed
but
somehow charmed life:
having
quite possibly
killed
his sadistically abusive father,
he
suffered a German prison, then Nazi rule,
then
the devastation of war, and then
the
East German Stasi’s snooping regime.
during
these times he created
his
own little furniture
and
furnishings museum, and
maintained an underground gay bar
cum
pleasure den.
Later
he endured the perils of a hero’s adulation
as
well as the scandal of renunciation
for
quite likely being a collaborator
with
successive oppressors. He was
either
a nurturing best friend or guileless betrayer
or
both at once together.
He
was a survivor undoubtedly and undeniably,
but
little else is absolutely certain
about
the person known as
Charlotte
von Mahlsdorf, a magnificent
artifice of his own making.
On Saturday, no one mentioned the old
saw
about the sister having been married
to Jesus,
but it seemed to me to hang in the air
all about:
a metaphor as imposing as an important
truth,
or, quite likely, posing as an
important truth.
And so, also for me, the strange
incongruity of men
in Renaissance outfits speaking,
singing
and leading us in prayer in 2010 seemed
an
ironic reminder of my previous night’s
entertainment.
More guys in girlish outfits quite
plainly and ornately
living lives constructed and adorned
from shiny whole cloth.
Living lives of genuine authenticity
and real accomplishment
and kindness and generosity, but
fabricated,
none the less, and built upon a story
and roles
that had now lately become somehow
dreadfully suspect.
along with the infallibly silly
pontifications of a
hierarchy who could no longer ask the
audience
to pay no attention to the man behind
the curtain.
I don’t go to church much anymore.
Though I did plenty as a boy.
I was crazy bout the smells and bells
and loved the costumes and the organ’s
rousing tones. I was quite devout till
stepping away in young adulthood,
never to return to church again except
to
occasionally honor folks
marrying or getting baptized or
buried.
But Church can still transport me, if
however briefly,
to that time when the staging on the
altar moved me utterly
and meant so much because I believed
the actors and the
script and the directions and the
magical moments
to be true. Which, of course, they
were. In a certain
manner of magnificent artifice.
Which in itself could be survival
for as long as the construction holds.
Paul Bukovec 2010
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